7 signs of self-sabotage

Do you secretly wonder if you’re sabotaging your success?

Are you frustrated at your inability to get out of your own way or figure out how to change?

It’s something I hear from achievement-oriented men every week who know they have so much more potential within them. They have dreams and goals that seem far away, mostly because time is passing them by and they haven’t found a way to break through these barriers.

Sometimes we’re too close to the issue so we can’t see the problem we’re creating. So I wanted to share 7 signs of self-sabotage that can weaken your resolve and lower self-confidence to take charge in your career and make things happen in your life…

1. Comparing yourself to others.

Problem: Do you regularly compare your situation/home/job/material goods/happiness/etc. to others and then feel bad when compared to them? The comparison doesn’t motivate us to do more or be better. Instead, it makes us feel we’ll never measure up or that we aren’t good enough. Comparison is the thief of your power and joy.

2. Focusing on what is not working or not right.

Problem: You think and speak a lot about what is going wrong — the lack of progress and results, the disappointing net worth, the more regular arguments with your spouse, and the time passing you by. You may even have gotten to the point of total “victim mentality” and can’t see your way out. Notice how often you speak about things that aren’t working. Notice how long you dwell on the problems. And notice what this negative mindset is doing to your happiness, relationships, and outlook on your future.

3. Being stuck in fear or uncertainty.

Problem: You overthink things and easily get locked in “analysis paralysis”. You know what you want but just can’t pull the trigger. In the last few years, you have failed to take the action you promised yourself. The more you do this you can’t avoid the truth that you lack the courage or decisiveness to overcome your fears. What’s worse, you think that staying where you are is the “safe” option. But the more that time passes by, you no longer feel safe in this rut.

4. Wasting a lot of time.

Problem: You tell yourself you have plenty of time to get that thing done but then have to scramble at the end and hate the process. You’ve become a master at avoiding what needs to be done and escaping the anxiety that follows with mindless, unproductive activities (like playing gaming apps or scanning social media) when you really should be knocking the important stuff off your list. You justify it by thinking it’s not ALWAYS like that….but then 1, 2,..10 years pass and you’re embarrassed at how little you’ve accomplished and how many opportunities you failed to seize.

5. Self-generating stress.

Problem: You start more projects than you have time to finish. You put yourself overwhelm because you lack an effective system to manage all your to-dos. You avoid difficult conversations or don’t address issues in a timely manner, leaving them to fester in your mind and become bigger and bigger the more you delay taking action. All of these create stress, worry, depression, and heartache. And to compound things, you don’t know how to lead your way out of it leaving you no option but to repeat the cycle of self-destruction.

6. Having no sense of purpose.

Problem: You’re feeling rudderless. Whether you’ve reached a crossroads in your career or just been buried in the weeds for too long, you don’t know where you’re heading. Your work or business is no longer fulfilling and the options in front of you are even foggier. You followed what “society” (or your parents) told you was the path to happiness and it didn’t pan out for you…and now you’re lost.

7. Trying to figure it out all on your own.

Problem: As Einstein said “You can’t solve a problem with the same level of thinking that created it in the first place” So true. Trying to solve big problems on your own is like climbing Everest without a sherpa. You MIGHT be able to do it, but it’ll take much longer, you can lose your will to keep pushing and you can easily take a wrong step that costs you your life.

So which of these 7 points resonates with you the most?

If ANY of these are present in your life and have been for too long, then maybe we can help.

If you are at the end of your rope and KNOW that your way of doing things isn’t working, then learn about our Masterclass below.

It’s time to put an end to self-sabotage once and for all.